Something is wrong with the way people comunicate these days. It was a sneaking change, but it is noticeable now. Observe two people talking, chances are they will exchange a series of statements about themselves, without bothering to ask about the other person. But this is now so common, that nobody feels they need to be prompted by questions to speak about themselves, they just do it. And the result is that every conversation on this planet now is an exchange of monologues, instead of a dialogue.
I dare you to try this. Do not ever speak about yourself unless explicitly asked. And “how are you” does not count. The question has to be specific to your circumstances. My test subject is my friend to whom I speak every day. After a week or so I am feeling depressed. The ridiculousness of it all dawned on me when after a few days of talking only about himself he suddenly proclaimed, that I was secretive, because I never tell him anything. I did not know one could laugh with a broken heart.
But in all seriousness, what is there to do? I end up being the one who is encouraging him to talk all the time of himself, because I react to what he tells me.
When has friendship become the place where one person is free to blabber about themselves because they assume you are only there to listen and care? It makes me feel damn low. Am I silly for thinking that interest in someone is best expressed through trying to find out things from them and engaging with what they are saying? Is it too much to ask for to expect this to be mutual?